Quit the Shit, Heal Your History, Win the Emotional War!
"It's not possible to hate ourselves, we're never broken even when it feels like there's no point carrying on. What we hate is who and what we've become. And who and what we've become is almost always a result of other people's negative words and actions. We know there is something kinder we should be feeling and doing but we can't get past the self-loathing shit.
Whatever's been done to us, said to us, or what we've done or said to others it's like this huge lie that contradicts what we know is true about us. We are lovable, we do deserve good things, we are capable, we are powerful beyond all measure. And yet someone projected their pain and self-loathing on to us. They made us sad and frightened, unsure and insecure. And that's what we hate, all those layers of emotional rubble we need to struggle through to see the light. The emotional war that rages inside of us is a result of the burdens of shame and guilt we're carrying for other people. And that is what leads us away from our joy and towards dysregulation, procrastination, perfectionism and people-pleasing."
From 'The Good Enough Revolution'
HAVE YOU HAD ENOUGH YET?
THEN YOU NEED TO BECOME A
*someone who creates complete and dramatic change
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“We must untangle how the power behind other people's words and actions stole the passion and enthusiasm of our spirit.
Only then can we take back rightful ownership of our gifts from the people who stole them and give back the shame and guilt we’ve carried for them."
At the heart of our emotional suffering lies too much of other people’s power and an absence of our own.
It's devastating to watch how the words and actions of other people have the power to
All it takes is one anxiety-inducing, intimidating moment to take us from emotional stability to emotional instability and fear.
But when we're safely guided and encouraged to look back and examine what we made that moment mean about us we're released from its power and, finally, we're free.
When we gather courage and shine a light on our emotional history, we will see that there is no parent, sibling, or authority figure bigger than our biggest dreams.
Once the light goes on nothing will stand in the way of our healing.
The danger has passed. The power that was once exerted over us by others no longer has the energy to hurt, harm, or humiliate.
WHY I CAN HELP YOU BECOME A GOOD ENOUGH REVOLUTIONARY
I wrote an unpublished, unread book 18-years ago called The Seeker's Heartache. It was an account of everything I had done so far to heal my heart and mend my utter brokenness.
I had no idea then that the undiagnosed suicidal depression, severe anxiety, and PTSD I was living with were a result of childhood mistreatment that nowadays would see the perpetrators punished.
It's hard to know the answers to your pain when you don't know the questions.
TRANSFORMATIONAL COACH & THERAPIST
COLOURFUL CREATOR OF USEFUL THINGS
from my messy heart to your messy heart
“It is not difficult to make things. What is difficult is to reach the place from which we can make things”
HOW I CAN HELP YOU BECOME A GOOD ENOUGH REVOLUTIONARY
FROM MY HEART TO YOURS
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"I WAS REALLY NERVOUS ABOUT OPENING UP TO THE SHAME I FELT. I QUICKLY REALISED ON DAY ONE THAT I WASN'T CARRYING MY OWN SHAME AT ALL. WHEN YOU TELL YOUR STORY YOU MAY FIND YOU'RE TELLING SOMEONE ELSE'S STORY ENTIRELY."
"I CAN'T CHANGE THE PAST AND RELEIVING MYSELF OF THE RESPONSIBILITY OF TRYING WAS HUGE FOR ME. ACCEPTING IT, HOWEVER HORRIFIC, HAVING COMPASSION FOR MYSELF FIRST (AND EVENTUALLY FOR THE PEOPLE WHO KEPT ME AWAY FROM THE LIGHT) AND THEN BECOMING EMPOWERED TO FULFIL MY POTENTIAL (THE ACE CHALLENGE) SET ME COMPLETELY FREE."